(un)DESIRABLE

  • April 30, 2012
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WORDS generally bring one of two emotions when heard…Joy or Sorrow.  Here are a few adjectives the Bible uses about the power of “words”: healing, hard, honeycomb, empty, light, fire, sweetness to the soul, and deadly poison.   But this particular one has me really thinking: “…they were (like) DRAWN SWORDS” (Psalm 55:21)

Those are fighting words.  Every now and then, I believe God allows something to shock us and make us (righteously) angry enough so we will DO something.  It has happened to me a handful of times in my 30 something years.  One of the most memorable was when I was told my husband, and daddy of our 3 little boys, may not live.  You can read that story here http://knowmoreorphans.org/journey-to-the-altar/

And then it happened again today and I am again ready to draw my sword and fight.  And I’ll tell you why.  A sweet friend of mine asked me to pray for her and her family.  They are right in the middle of the ugly-beautiful trenches of foster care.  They had a family court case they were attending and during their discussion of the obstacles and challenges that the children in their county are facing, WORDS were said that evoked a strong emotion of sorrow in my friend, and in me:

When a child in this county (and there are 500 of these precious souls) reaches a certain age, and they are of a certain type, we place them in a category called unadoptable. It has been proven that at about age 9, a child is UNDESIRABLE. 

UN.DE.SIR.ABLE.  What?  The first thing that came to my mind was just who gets to choose that word to describe a 9 year old?  This hit waaaay too close to home for me…because I have two very desirable and beautifully talented boys, a year just past 9.  I imagined somene saying to me that my boys were “undesirable”, and it made me want to DRAW MY SWORD and FIGHT. 

There are two goals of foster care…reunification with the parent(s) and permanency. When certain measures are not met by a family in crisis, parental rights are terminated and a child then becomes a ward of the state.  The focus shifts to permanency, which is known as foster-to-adopt.  Heartbreakingly, it has been proven that the older the child, the less likely they are to experience a forever family. 

And HOPE is suffocated.

Obviously these “unadoptable” children have come from HARD places and have much to overcome. And, of course, it would be easy to point fingers at why and how, but the reality is that it does no good.  The reality points to another stinging word: AVAILABILTY.  Not everyone is called to adopt or even foster, but we are called to be available… to care for the least of these (Psalm 82:3).  These boys and girls need mentors, cheerleaders, and encouragers to renew their HOPE…who of us doesn’t, right?  And, yes, yes, yes, they still need forever families. As my friend so compassionately said, “Someone to tell them they can break the cycle.”  Whoa. 

It is a hard battle to fight, but surely, the God who executes justice and is a Father to the fatherless is FOR this fight.  And if He is for us, who can be against us?

Here are the amazing words GOD uses in Ephesians 1:3-8 to desribe His children:

Blessed – Chosen – Adopted – Favored – Redeemed – Forgiven – Loved

“How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called the children of God!  And THAT is what we are!” (1 John 3:1)

God spent no small amount of inspired ink expressing the various facets of sonship (and daughtership)…If we knew nothing else the New Testament had to say about us but these few TRUTHS into our belief system, our lives would be altered. (Beth Moore)

The Creator has already determined our worth and age wasn’t a factor.  Afterall, the two youngest KINGS in the Bible were Jesus, at the moment of His royal conception, and Josiah, at age 8 (2 Kings 22).  Yep, a baby-King and an 8 year old king.  Someone named the FATHER surely does see children as DESIRABLE, and so must we.

 

So, I am drawing my sword to fight the good fight.  I am asking the King of Kings to give us faith and courage to know how to change that ugly, hard, deadly word “undesirable”.  The system is broken, but so is the Body of Christ.  BROKEN ONLY TO BE HEALED.

Yahweh your God is there with you, the warrior- Saviour.  He will rejoice over you with HAPPY song, he will renew you by His love, he will DANCE with shouts of joy for you.” (Zeph. 3:17, NJB)

These (un)DESIRABLE children deserve to know that THIS WORD is truth.  And we, the Body of Christ must show them, in word and in deed. Please pray for these beautiful children.  Please pray for Altar84.  Please pray for the church.  Please pray that YOU will be AVAILABLE.

In His Grace,

Jodie